On Friday night, I sent a text to my friend who was having a tough week and invited their family over for dinner on Saturday night. It wasn’t going to be anything big. There were a lot of great football games on TV occupying our time. The weather was amazing, so we spent most of the day outside on bikes and scooters. But we wanted our friends and their kids to come over for some simple fellowship.
Between our two families, we have five boys. Two five-year olds, two three-year olds, and a one-year old. And of course our baby boy on the way. We have a lot in common just because of this wild phase of life.
I had planned to make a simple pasta dish, a salad, and a dessert and order pizza for the kids, but Todd told me he really wanted to do take out barbecue because he loves barbecue and football. So that’s what we did. We ordered a few pounds of barbecue and some sides, including mac and cheese for the kids, and kept it warm until they arrived.
They arrived, we watched football and ate some corn dip, and the kids played in the play room. We could hear messes being made. We’d hear someone cry and have to decide whose kid was crying and why. There’s always a little bit of refereeing that goes on when you get that many little boys together. But it’s real life.
Our friends have seen our imperfect kids do wild things that get them in a little bit of trouble. And we’ve seen our friends discipline their kids. It’s part of being in community. It’s part of letting people in to see the not-so-great moments that are just part of real life.
We made our way upstairs to check on the kids before we ate, and the playroom looked like a bomb had gone off, but we just left it until the next day. No need to stop and clean up because we wanted to visit. We sat and ate. Some kids ate more than other. Hayes, actually, didn’t eat anything at all. And that’s life.
But my boys loved having their friends in our house and we loved having our friends there, too.
I wanted to share five simple tips for an easy last-minute gathering:
1. Order take out. Don’t put pressure on yourself for a gourmet meal. Serve some familiar comfort food. Order take-out barbecue. Pick up a pizza or two. Pick up Chinese take-out.
2. Do a quick clean. Run the vacuum cleaner through the common areas. For us, this is really only important because of dog hair. We wipe down the kitchen counters and table just to make sure that it’s clean enough to serve food off of.
3. Set the table. Or just go ahead and get all the dishes and silverware you’ll need. Or just open up a pack of paper plates.
4. Check the bathroom. Just make sure there is a clean hand towel and a full roll of toilet paper. You’re not doing anything fancy, but you just want to make sure everyone’s needs are met.
5. Turn on the lights and unlock the door. Just turning on the lights, lighting a candle, and having the door open ready to receive your guests just sends a message that you were expecting them, and your home is open and ready for them.
What are some of your easiest tips to welcoming last minute guests?
This post is part of 31 Days of Breaking Bread