*I linked up today with Hayley (The Tiny Twig) and Jessi (Naptime Diaries) for their weekly series called Giving Up On Good. This series asks us to share the good things that we can let go of with the intention of taking care of the things that really matter to us. If you blog, I encourage you to write and link up, too.
I am a task master. I love making to-do lists. I like to get things done and sometimes I add things to my list just so I can get more things accomplished.
Every day, my to-do list looks a little bit like this…
Put on makeup.
Take Hudson to school.
Shower? Maybe? Only if there’s extra time.
Play with kids.
Respond to emails.
Devotional and daily Bible reading assignment.
Read for fun. But read at least two chapters.
Do some laundry.
Do the dishes.
Make sure the dogs have been taken care of.
So some of these things are part of a mental to-do list. I don’t really have “sleep” on my list. I also don’t have anything about sitting and have good conversation with my kids and husband on my list. But those are important parts to my day.
I also really enjoy the unexpected phone call that lasts 45 minutes, but you don’t regret a single minute that you spent chatting with a great friend.
Some of the items on my list are non-negotiable. I wake up early to exercise. I take Hayes out on my runs every day when Hudson is at school. I blog either early in the morning or late at night.
My quiet time is non-negotiable. I really need to have dinner for my family every night, but leftovers are absolutely okay. Showers are great, but so what if I only get one every other day? Or every third day? (Promise you won’t stop reading my blog just because I said that?)
Sometimes I think the list keeps me on track. But other times I think the list weighs me down. The list reminds me what I haven’t done. The list reminds me that I’m not moving fast enough to keep up.
The list reminds me that there are only 10 minutes left in nap time and I’m not even close to getting it all done.
And this summer, when Hudson is out of school, I have an amazing opportunity. I get to have a “summer” with my kids. I’m not giving myself the summer “off.” But I am giving up on the to-do list.
I will make a point every single day to take some time to do something for myself. Maybe I’ll read during nap time. Maybe I’ll blog during nap time if I choose not to wake up early. But I refuse to run around all summer like a chicken with my head cut off trying to put a little check mark next to every item on my list. So I’m getting rid of the list.
Things will be forgotten. Balls will be dropped. I will most definitely be disappointed at times that I forgot something or that we ate sandwiches for supper because we stayed too late at the zoo and there wasn’t time to cook supper.
And I’m giving myself a pass to not have every single thing on my list done.
Here’s the deal with my lists. I put the responsibilities on the same list as the “want to” items. And then I get upset when I see that some of my fun items didn’t happen. But those are the things that keep me sane. But laundry also has to get done. Our house has to run and I need to set an example of responsibility for my kids.
But I also want them to remember that I wanted to have fun with them and play with them. I wanted to sit on the floor and play card games on rainy days and I wanted to run through sprinklers when we’re out with the stroller on a hot day.
So this summer I’m giving up on the to do list and focusing on the happy.
What are you giving up on? Are you a slave to the to do list?