Without embarrassing the Twitter friend who prompted this post, I thought I would set the record straight today about my life and the person I am. I apologize to anyone who ever got the wrong impression.
- I don’t get dressed every day. I don’t put on make up every day. I hope my husband thinks I’m sexy.
- I wash my hair twice a week. Fortunately, I was cursed blessed with thick hair that doesn’t need to be washed daily. But still. I don’t wash my hair every day.
- My children are not always dressed cute. Some days they wear their pajamas all day, too!
- I swear. Not in front of my kids and not in public. But at home when I stump my toe or my water boils over or when Hayes wakes up every hour on the hour for no particular reason.
- I also have road rage. I have been known to reach over from the passenger seat while TC is driving just to blow the horn at someone because he doesn’t like to do it.
- I am impatient. If I want something done, I want it done right then or I’m going to stomp off and do it myself. Probably just to prove a point. And I’ll probably trip and fall on the way because that’s what happens when you make an idiot of yourself.
- I watch bad TV and get really into it.
- I’m super competitive and hate feeling like I lost at something. Even if it wasn’t something that I should have been competing for.
- I have pretty good intuition when it comes to meeting new people. I’m not the most trusting person in the world and can be very cautious.
- But I also tell some people way too much information.
- Ummm hello I tell way too much information on this blog.
- I try to be forgiving and try not to hold grudges against people who have hurt me in the past, but that’s not always how it works out.
- I say mean things about people I see that I don’t know based on what they’re wearing.
- I say mean things about people’s children that are misbehaving and make my kid cry!
So, I apologize to any of you that got the wrong impression of me over these past few years. I try to show you all the good with the bad on this blog. But I do try to keep it clean for the most part.
If you could all have the misfortune of coming to my house to sit and chat with me while I watch the Real Housewives of Where Ever and sip a glass of Santa Margherita, you may see a side of me that doesn’t always come out when I’m blogging about my day.
I do love the Lord and try, try, try to be the best person I can be. But I fail. A lot.
It’s official. we’re the same person. minus your gorgeous locks and second child.. love this post!
Love this post. Love your honesty. Love the good bad and ugly. And love sipping on my pinot grigio while watching Real Housewives. 🙂
We all fail. Kinley stays her her pj’s a lot of days. I wasn’t blessed with beautiful hair like you and I surely don’t was mine everyday 😉 and I’ve told you before Santa Margherita is my most favorite so count me in for that!
I feel like I could have written 90% of those bullets. I love you, Erin and how honest you are. These kinds of posts are always refreshing to read from fellow bloggers. I’m glad to know you. I’m very certain if I were to sit and chat with you during RHo Where Ever and sip a glass of Santa Margherita… we’d get along just fine. 🙂 Again – love this. Keep doing what you’re doing.
You completely made my day, especially with the road rage bit. I don’t think anyone has gotten the wrong impression of you at all— you are a wonderful, genuine person who handles every part of life with grace and a spirit of humility and faithfulness.
Okay, maybe not the reaching over TC part to blow the horn but that just makes me adore you even more.
I can’t express how much I love this. I felt like it was me talking. I try so hard to LOOK like I’ve got it all together but I’m so, so far from having it all together. I have that same thick hair I don’t have to wash every day and I thank God for it simply for the selfish reason that I can sleep at least another 30 minutes on the mornings I don’t need to go through the hair washing/drying/styling process. I have terrible road rage and I too judge people I don’t know based on looks alone.
Bit I try to go to church on Sundays and be a good person too. We’re real. It’s what we are. Thanks for this post, Erin!
I tweeted you already, but yeah I do a lot of the same things. We are all human, and believe me no one is perfect. If they think they are well then they must of bumped the head a little too hard. 🙂
Sooooo … that makes you a real live human being, right? Perfectly imperfect but trying hard every day. I wish I could say that about everyone I meet. Please continue to share your life with us. You are an inspiration to many … on your good days AND on your bad days.
I keep up with you because my Dad is a 20+ year melanoma survivor and I want you to never lose hope with your Mom.
You’re me…with better hair!!!
I tried to kick the swearing when I had kids but after years working as a project accountant for a developer (working on construction sites) it’s embedded just too deeply. My kids know that those are “grown up” words…there’s a whole sphere of things that grownups can do (staying up late, driving and drinking wine, to name a few) and that’s one of them!
Sometimes I feel “fake” because I don’t curse online and I bite my tongue about certain things I wouldn’t hesitate to say IRL, but really I hate that I cuss and I should be nicer so my online me is better anyway. If that even makes sense?!
I LOVE this!! Thanks for making my morning;)
I love how honest this is. I also have totally reached over my husband to hit the car horn cause he wouldn’t. My husband said I was crazy to do that, and I’m working on NOT doing that anymore, but I have to admit that I feel a bit better hearing I’m not the only one to do that 🙂
I guess you are human after all! 🙂 I love how honest you are…especially about raising kids!
Lady, this post really spoke to my heart. As a wife who also reaches over her husband to honk the horn, loves trash TV, and (also!) judges total strangers on their appearance, I feel like I completely understand where you’re coming from. It’s so hard to remember sometimes that perfection is something we should struggle against and grace is what we should reach for. Keep your head up!
Thank you so much for this post. I can relate to 99% of the items listed!!
I love your honesty and realness!! I love raunchy reality TV, i totally have roadrage, and sometimes i swear, but i also LOVE Jesus 🙂
No one ever said we had to have it all together. thats one of my favorite things about Jesus, he wants us to come to him just the way we are!!
Thank you for sharing your life with the world, and with women who can relate!
XOXO
And this is exactly why I love you, the person you are, and your blog!!! 🙂
Hahahaha the horn honking thing really hit home for me. I am definitely guilty of doing the same thing when I’m a passenger. You have to let people KNOW they’re driving incorrectly so they learn from their mistakes, am I right?! Honking is doing them a FAVOR.
Umm…I wear my PJs ALL DAY LONG! You are not alone. And Kate wears the same outfit all day long with various food stains. My floors are covered in dog hair. I get cranky after 4 p.m. And I am totally impatient. I want something done, and I want it done now!
I also have terrible road rage…I also swear a lot when I’m driving, okay i swear a lot period. It feels good to be honest, doesn’t it?! Love this post!
Thanks for sharing! I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who’s not perfect.
Thanks for keeping it real! 🙂 I love the road rage part too.. Keep on being you.. you are great! 🙂
Awesome, awesome, awesome! Mostly because you sound like me right down to the bad t.v. part (I’m addicted to the Kardashians), thick hair that doesn’t get washed, and swearing. And I’m a youth pastor’s wife and a former preacher’s kid. I try to “behave” myself, but we all fail sometimes. None of us are perfect, but I do try to present a clean front on my blog. I don’t want to offend anyone, but sometimes my insane sarcasm and impatience with incompetent people seeps through. Love your honesty.
I don’t think it’s failure if you get up ever morning and still try to be a better person. And there is NOTHING in that list that we don’t all do to some extent. But I have to be honest, the leaning over to honk the horn made me crack up at my desk! When my husband and I first started dating, he was horrified to learn that I actually used my horn – I guess Texans find it rude? But NYers, like me, think it’s a required accessory for driving.
I think you’re a wonderful person and mother – regardless of whether you’re perfect, you’re still special.
LOL this is great. I love all of your posts and admire your ability to maintain togetherness, even if you don’t always feel together. But, blogs – whether intended or not – only show a portion of people’s lives. Fun to learn a few of the other things that don’t make it to the blog. My secret? I curse. Too often. At work or in the grocery or anywhere else. I never curse on Twitter, Facebook or my blog though. So maybe I do have some decency left in me. 😉
Oh, thank God! Glad you’re you. and thank you again Erin for opening your life to your readers. I love to read about what Hudson is doing and think “Oh yeah, I remember when Gavin was doing that!” Stop by http://www.jenningsbaby.blogspot.com and say hello! -Erin
LOVE. 🙂 -turner
Thanks for this post! I appreciate your honesty and I feel like I should come clean too! I curse WAY too much and the older my kids get the worse this has become! I am impatient and I too get road rage.I suffer from anxiety and forget to turn my burdens over to the Lord. Guilty pleasure is bad TV (I don’t miss an episode of the Bachelor/Bachelorette or Bachelor Pad).The long and short of it is that we all fail and sin everyday! The great news is we are forgiven!!
I love your blog and all the ideas you share! Keep it up!
Chele, KS
Are you my long lost twin? Seriously. Especially the road rage. I can’t stand it when people don’t drive the speed limit! And the cursing. I stubbed my toe on the low mower yesterday and I said words I didn’t even know I knew (and I definitely wouldn’t on my blog)! And then blamed my husband for not putting the lawn mower away! But I forgave him when he sat down to watch Flipping Out with me…
LOVED this post!!! Glad I am not the only one 🙂
ditto 🙂
your honesty is refreshing Erin! We all strive to do well and sometimes we do, but most of the time we are just trying to balance what the world throws at us as well as we can.
Only know you through the blog world but I think I could have writtent this post! The only thing I think we differ on is that I do not use the horn, I use my finger! My husband swears her is going to have to bail me out of jail one day because of my road rage… 🙂
LOL well my curiosity is peaked about what prompted this post but I LOVE it 🙂 Thanks for the laughs and thanks for the honesty…DITTO to it all!
Haha, I agree with so much of this! Especially road rage, you would just loathe driving in LA! In an effort not to curse, my general expletive is “INAPPROPRIATE” or “UNACCEPTABLE!” to the horrific drivers I’m forced to commute with. I also have really good intution regarding people and, while I try to never take the “I have enough friends” attitude, I can tell when a relationship is going to be a great use of my time or not. Like bloggers!
Ahh Ha! I think that you are me or I am you! I would love to sit a chat with you while sipping a glass of Santa Margarita may favorite!
Great post, but what has prompted this post, someone must have said something to “ruffle your feathers”, just let it roll.
Love the honesty Erin! You can only put yourself “out there” so much on the internet and I respect how you balance trying to keep it clean and trying to keep it real. Kudos!
Preach! Great post! And anyone who thinks THEY are perfect, well, bless them. 🙂
I’ve always enjoyed reading your blog… but now I think I love YOU!
Umm … I think we could be the same person 🙂
You’re a very genuine person, Erin. Just because you don’t put every little detail of your life on your blog for the entire world to see doesn’t mean that you’re being fake or trying to come across as perfect. I think you strike a really good balance of being honest and being cautious on your blog (and there definitely needs to be some level of caution when writing blogs!). And you try to be a witness for Christ too. Cheers to you!!!
I love this! And, I love your blog and your tweets mostly because of your honesty! You are a real person, and anyone that doesn’t understand that isn’t living in reality!
Yep! You rock!!! Love this post! Do 110% of the same things….guess what? it is 1:15pm and I am still in my pjs and haven’t even brushed my teeth!!! Don’t judge!:)
I love this post. I hate that someone made you feel like you had to write it, but I love this post.
Mmmm. Santa Margharita!
p.s. I think this post is awesome…other than the part where you apologize for being you — never apologize for being you! 🙂
Just goes to show that your human. I had to nod my head in agreement to each and every point that you said and add a few such as I snap at my husband when I’m tired after a long day of working and a rough evening with the kiddos.
love this post. I, too, swear occasionally, am impatient, am a little judgy sometimes, etc. etc. But, like you said, I try to be the best I can be, but sometimes it just doesn’t happen. Good to know I’m not alone!
It’s a shame we’re not neighbors!!
Hahaha! I love you, Erin. This post is awesome.
um, are we the same person? except i don’t have kids (yet)… or a blog.
I love this and your honesty, Erin! And, I totally honk the horn for my husband, too. He gets livid!
Love this post for today. Fits my mood quite well.
We have a lot in common! I do have to wash my hair daily though because it’s thin and gets greasy if I don’t. I feel bad about myself if I have greasy hair. I wish I could go several days without washing it because it’s hard to find time with a new baby.
Landon basically stays in his PJs every day unless we have to be somewhere or someone is coming to visit.
I have an awful potty mouth and have really had to clean it up since I had a baby. I do still curse when he’s not around and I am so glad to hear I’m not the only one who thinks or maybe quietly says bad words when my kid keeps waking up all day and night.
I am curious as to what someone said to prompt this post, but I am glad you wrote it! Thanks for sharing and being so honest 🙂
You are fabulous- for being honest, being you, and accepting it! Some days are better than others, right? 🙂 You honestly make me feel normal. You really do. I don’t have kids yet, but somedays I am in my pjs all day. Lol! Your blog is the very first one I ever started reading years and ago and this is exactly why. I’m going to have a drink to cheers your blog post tonight!
Girl, this is so me and I know everyone is saying that but it is true!! Great post!!
I don’t comment here much… but just wanted to say we could be long lost relatives of some sort LOL! i am probably worse at swearing though, but i am from the tri-state area so i cant blame myself entirely 🙂 the only thing i couldnt check off was your #3. my son only has clothes on every day because i work and he goes to school, otherwise we love comfy clothes here too! cute post 🙂
I’ve never thought of honking the horn for my husband! He just gives the sarcastic thumbs-up, but I think other drivers sometimes need reminders that they’re not the only ones on the road… 🙂
Thank you for posting this! I’ve read your blog for a while but this post just seems so full of emotion and real that I couldn’t help but comment. I do many of the same “bad” things. I know I’m not perfect and I honestly have NO desire to be.
Thank you Erin !
For being so human. After the day I’ve had, a glass of Santa Margherita would be soooo good !
Looking forward to your next blog. x
Love your honesty and love your blog!
Great GREAT post! Thanks.
I feel like we could be friends. I try to be “real” on my blog but I recognize that people use it as a reflection of who I am so I clean up my language or post pictures of my girls and myself dressed and not in pj’s {usually} but really? I’m a wine loving, RHONY/NJ/OC, etc… watching, t-shirt and nike short wearing kind of girl. And that’s ok with me! 🙂
And this is why I love this blog. I commented for the first time yesterday about how much I love that your blog is so real- with the good and the bad. While you have the added blessing/stress of a second child and I only have the one I feel like we are so similar!
Great post! And, I do feel like you are honest on your blog! It is hard to get all parts of your personality when, like you said, you are blogging about your day and your kids. We all have aspects of our lives that may not show through in our writing but that also doesn’t mean you are trying to hide it!
Oh, Erin! I totally could’ve written this post. 😉
I don’t think you’ve given anyone the wrong impression. Seriously. I think you’re quite honest that you’re not perfect. As most bloggers have mentioned before, a large majority of us only put a small portion of “us” on our blogs, so we may come across as narcisstic/self-centered – but we’re totally not!
Great post! Thank you.
Love the honesty! It’s great to hear that other people have a “not so pretty” side too! ha
Love it!!
Erin! What a beautiful post!
This post is one of the things I admire most about you. Your truthful soul is such a beautiful thing, and the world would be a better place with more of you in it!
Bless you, your sweet family, and your sweet perfectly imperfect world 🙂
This is why we’re friends 🙂 love you dear!
Thank you for this post and your transparency! It was so timely for me today, I feel like I could’ve written parts of that myself!
I absolutely love, love, love this post! thanx for keeping it real 😉
It’s official. I like you. 🙂 Kiki
Oh man… just when I thought you were perfect. Pssshhh! 😉 I am happy that you are just like the rest of us, whether we admit it or not. 🙂
My husband REFUSES to honk the horn too. I reach over ALL the time. He knows now and will totally block me, so now it’s an epic battle.
I’ve been having a sucky few days and THIS, THIS marvelous post has made me feel so much better!!! YAY…..
I’m like you in so many ways….do you get sick of hearing that? I love that you’re human 🙂
I do/say/feel about 95% of those things and it’s so nice to hear that someone else does too!
I wish I lived closer to you. We would be bffs….seriously.
Housewives and mararitas! FO SHO!
and by that I meant margaritas!!
great post.. and i totally do the horn thing.. and it infuriates my husband.. and the other people i ride in cars with!
Favorite post EVER!
Favorite post of the day….thank you!!
Thank you for this! I (ashamedly) thought you were some sort of wonderwoman who rarely has bad days and always looks cute and well accessorized (while I struggle to squeeze in a shower with my baby & son at home). Your image isn’t tarnished at all… I think this post makes you even more likable, which is nuts since you seem pretty stinking likable!
So you’re telling us you’re human? Welcome to the club! And I don’t mean that in a snide or sarcastic way at all. We all mess up a lot…some days it’s just easier to keep up the appearance of having it all together. 🙂
I could have written this post myself (minus the kids part because we haven’t had any yet). You go girl! 🙂
This is my favorite post to date. (well, favorite non cutie pie post). I think for those of us in the blogging world, people can tend to think they “know you” from what you post on your blog. Recently I went to NYC with a bunch of girlfriends for my “bachelorette weekend”. They all toasted me, and kept saying how I was their idol, and my fiance and I have the “picture perfect” life with our little girl etc etc. I had to stop them and say, “whoa whoa whoa….it’s nowhere near perfect, where are you getting this idea?!” And they ALL said, “from your blog!”. Wow. I like to keep my blog upbeat and positive for the most part, but it made me realize that you can tend to leave the wrong impression. And while my blog is for ME, I want it to be real too. So it’s ironic you would post this now…and good to know someone else feels this way. Maybe I will write a similar post sometime soon!
Oh and ps–RHW of whereever is my absolute favorite thing EVER. And Santa Margherita, yummmm!
And this is just another reason why I love ya! Hopefully one day I will get to see that side of you…cuz I’m pretty much the same way 🙂
Hahaha!!! Love this. I also enjoy wine and trash tv…I thought everyone did??? Ha!
This made me laugh out loud. I would definitely add to my list: I bribe my one year old with cookies and chocolate. To anyone that cares to offer their advice I say this: judge away! Unless you live in our house then you have NO idea!
Besides the hair washing part, I could have written every other word on my blog today. From the swearing and impatient to the intuition about meeting new people and the holding grudges. You are who you are! No need to apologize (which I know you were not) or really explain. That’s why I love blogging! I can put my thoughts/ideas/feelings out there for me. If other people don’t like it, oh well. I know I could get slammed because of it, but I have to step back and really tell myself that I can let that one person bother me or shrug it off. Love the post! (I’m thinking maybe from Ashley’s post? Love her blog too!)
I think this is my post! he he! Loved it! Except, I do wash my hair everyday cuz it looks greasy if I don’t. But, if it is not a school day or church, my hair is in a pony with a visor. 🙂
I do many of these things too. I guess that makes us both human on many levels.
HA! I too have leaned over my husband to honk the horn and wave my hands wildly at another car on the road. He gets so upset about it! Also, I don’t wash my hair every day…or even shower every day for that matter. From all accounts in this post, you sound pretty normal =) Also, and this may be t.m.i, but it’s 5:30 in the evening, and I’m sitting on the couch in my underwear. I was dressed earlier today, but when we came home from running errands I just couldn’t be bothered with clothes. I’m hoping my husband finds that sexy rather than just plain weird. Oh, and I swear. A lot. And in front of my child…but she can’t talk yet, so I figure..I’m good. Right? =)
you’re awesome. and real. great post.
Thank you for this post! I can relate to A LOT of it! 🙂
Erin,
Not to sound redundant after what others have written but this indeed a beautiful post. You are so refreshingly honest and humble which is truthfully one of the reasons I continue to frequent your blog. You share so much of yourself and your family on this blog and so while I can somewhat understand how someone could possibly make a false assumption or two, I think it’s important for people to realize that not everything about a blog’s author is apparent from their posts. In reality, we only see a small percentage of your life and while many of us are so quick to judge (including myself) we really need to be and remain mindful that…again…we only have a small window into your life, your belief system, your best features and even your shortcomings. We all have them, and that is what makes each of us who we are. Thanks again for sharing so much of yourself with the rest of us.
I’m the same way!! I think my potty mouth, road rage and impatience got worse since I’ve had Fin. I don’t know how it happened, but I’ve turned into a sailor.
Love it. We all have flaws (big and little). I also judge people based on appearances, swear at times, love bad TV, etc. I also am ashamed to admit that my husband and I don’t wait and argue away from the kids. If we are having a disagreement we do it right there in front of them. We raise our voices, say things that are not nice, etc… We are all human and do things in the “heat of the moment” that we may regret later.
I don’t know who prompted you to write this, but if they thought you were perfect or made you feel badly then shame on them!!
Erin,
Just want to echo the many others who’ve said they love your blog, your posts, and the fact that you’re real! I admire you and the great job you do as a mom. You speak honestly and straight from the heart. Keep doing EXACTLY what you’re doing! 🙂
I LOVE this post! So true and honest. I am 100% addicted to Real Housewives and really anything on Bravo. I want to be friends with Andy Cohen.
1) It’s 1:20, and I still have my pajamas on and NO BRA! And two different people have come to my house to pick something up or drop something off and that still hasn’t motivated me to get dressed.
2) There are Legos all over my den.
3) There are folded clothes on my couch.
4) There is a mountain of dirty laundry I need to wash.
5) I need to take a bath and wash my hair. But the hair isn’t getting washed AGAIN today!
6) There is a PILE of mail that I need to go through.
7) Instead I am reading your blog and others. This one made me laugh hysterically. Especially the part about watching the Real Housewives of Wherever!
8) One bright spot…I have a roast in the crockpot!
You had me at Santa Margherita! In all fairness, you do an excellent job of looking great, dressing your children well, and presenting your fabulous house! But, glad to know you’re “normal”! I’ve totally leaned over to beep at someone else while my husband was driving as well–it drives him insane!!!
Absolutely hilarious and honest! LOL I came across other blogs by total accident when searching
on google one day, then I discovered all of these incredibly unique and honest women out there
who struggle with the same day to day things I do. I’m a mother of 2 and have another on the way. I love the ideas I get from bloggers and feel almost guilty and a little creepy reading all this info
about people who don’t even know me, since I do not have a blog myself. One day!
I just had to let you know, your ideas for the daily planners are brilliant and I will be incorporating those in my own personal life asap!! I need to organize, organize, organize! So thank you for being braver than myself and blogging about your life, you all help other women more than you know!
I’m glad I’m not the only one punishing other drivers with the horn (or the finger…) when they suck at driving and my husband is behind the wheel! Don’t they know that people need to be made aware that they need to LEARN TO DRIVE?! 🙂