Okay, ladies (and all three of you gentlemen who read this blog), I want to know what you think. If you’ve had a baby or you are currently pregnant, what is the #1 most off-putting comment or action that you heard or experienced from someone during your pregnancy?
Did someone touch your belly without asking? Did someone call you fat?
Those of you that have not had a baby, what do you think would drive you crazy? What have you observed that you think would put you off?
Don’t be afraid to write lengthy comments because I want to know what happened!
(I’ve never had a baby or been pregnant) For me, people who I didn’t know, touching my belly. I would be so freaked out I think. It’s such a personal space thing!!! I mean I imagine that when you are far enough along you are visibly pregnant, so why are people touching you? Great post! Can’t wait to see what people will write!
is there a story you would like to share with us hehe?
honestly i think the biggest issue i would have while being pregnant would be someone telling me how i should do x or buy y…it’s like let me decide on my own without telling me. if i ask for advice then tell me, otherwise, keep your mouth shut.
OMG-an I really the first to comment? YAY!
I didn’t show hardly at all until I was 8 months pregnant with my first. I was wearing maternity starting in my 5th month but I just looked a little rounder, not preggers. One of my friends who was due 2 days before me, had the audacity to suggest that our baby wasn’t healthy b/c I wasn’t showing. She would press the issue too which was HORRIBLE. She was a lot bigger than me while pregnant and I think she was bothered by that and just knew that this would hurt me. It was awful! The thing is, I wanted to show! I was so excited to get into mat. clothes, etc. and yet she made me feel terrible-like I must be doing something wrong. So mean!
I’ve never been pregnant, but I think I would be most put off by someone trying to touch my belly. I’m really weird about my stomach when I’m NOT pregnant, so I couldn’t imagine wanting people to touch me when I am!
A friend who just recently had a baby was annoyed by all of the advice that everyone around her was telling her. She didn’t mind some, but when she was just telling people she wanted them to be excited and not offer up all of THEIR advice. She would ask if she wanted it.
I think that the worst thing I’ve heard of (from my 2 older sisters) is when people offer unsolicited parenting/child-rearing advice. This drove both of them crazy. For example – my sister S sends her children to public school. When a woman from her church heard this, she was all upset and kept nagging her about how homeschool is the best thing for your children, and anything else is just irresponsible. I think that sort of unasked for advice would drive me crazy!
9 days…NINE…days after my son was born my husband and I went out to a friend’s wedding. On the way home we stopped at Starbucks to refuel since we knew the night shift was starting once we got home. While paying the cashier asked me when I was due…..I could have just died…and cried the rest of the way home! The funniest part of the whole thing was that everyone at the wedding was saying “I thought you just had a baby, you look great, blah, blah ,blah” and then this stranger totally burst my bubble…I’ve been ordering skinny vanilla lattes ever since!
When my husband and I decided we did not want amnioscentisis testing due to an increased risk of miscarriage, my nurse practioner literally told me: “Well, then there really is no use in you continuing this pregnancy if you are going to be one of THOSE parents who puts their own desires above their child.” Uhm, what?????
Needless to say, we changed doctors.
THAT, and people touching my stomach. It’s like… BACK OFF, PEOPLE!! OH! And family members thinking we are going to name the kid after them. We CANNOT name our child after twenty-three distant relatives. Sheesh!
Ok so I have never been prego, but one time a prego coach when I was in high school grabbed my hand and made me feel her baby kick…and that was incredibly awkward. She also had booty shorts on at the time which was also horrifying!
Sounds like you need to get something off your chest! 🙂
I hated when people would give me unwanted advice. Everyone that has a kid thinks they are experts. I also didn’t like it when people questioned my decision to only have one, like I wasn’t normal because of it. Also, people telling me what to name my child….ughhhh
I haven’t had a baby yet but I am not looking forward to the invasion of privacy that comes with pregnancy. People are always asking pregnant women about their bodies and plans and what not. I like my privacy and there are things I will definitely not be talking about. My In-Laws are constantly joking about my sister-in-law breast feeding. It is sooooo uncomfortable for me.
I’ve never had a child but hubs and I have talked a lot lately about it. I think I am most scared of being so bombarded with people’s opinions and wanting to see our child every free chance we have and buying tons of things for it. To me although they are all nice gestures, they just scare me and overwhelm me. I want to be able to buy my child what I want and not feel the pressure of other people all the time.
during my 8th month, a total stranger asked me, ‘have your legs always been that big?!’ i looked at them blankly and said ‘oh, yes.’ pppfftt… i had been retaining a LOT of fluid in my legs…and they were swollen, sure… but for someone to ask me that… it was just uncalled for.
I’ve never been prego, but I would hate people feeling it is their right to touch my bump. Seems like once you are pregnant everyone has the right to touch or give advice. Lastly, many of my friends have said they hate how people will ask how much weight they have gained or gained throughout their entire pregnancy. Someone should right a manners book on how to talk and treat a pregnant lady. Do you have a good story to share?
Everyone kept telling me to sleep now while I can…Like I was staying up all night 6 months pregnant? I mean really- we know there are going to be sleepless nights – I didnt need everyone reminding me of it all the time.
I’m not pregnant nor have I been, but I’ve got some ideas of what would drive me crazy…
1. Don’t touch me without asking!
2. “Oh… you’re huge!”
3. “Oh… you should NEVER do that!” or “I can’t believe you’re thinking of doing/naming/whatever!”
I don’t mind people touching my belly…prob because I haven’t had anyone that I wouldn’t be comfortable touching it. Maybe the day a stranger walks up and just plops their hand on there I might feel differently!
One thing I can’t stand is when people first ask what you are having and then they ask you (if you know) “Oh, did you want a girl?” What do you mean?!?!?! Of course! I am so happy that she’s healthy! One, like I had a choice, and two, how can you ask that of someone? I don’t even get to the name issue because I don’t even want to hear their unsolicited opinions on what I am naming MY child!
I will say this though, that I had a very positive experience the other day when I was getting lunch and man behind me asked me if he could ask me a personal question and I said sure- he asked if I was pregnant and when I said yes he told me I had a beautiful glow! (He was only about 80 years old poor thing!)
Hang in there Blue Eyed Bride! I am one week behind you!
When I was pregnant with my son it was as if there was a huge sign on my belly that said “Touch me” because everyone tried to! Just because there is a person growing in there does not negate the whole concept of personal space people!!!
Everyone from your friends, church members, and complete strangers also saw my pregnancy as an open ended invite to offer all the unsolicited advice in the world! I am sure some of them had good intentions, but it was a bit much…
Finally…by the time I reached my 7th month, my hands were starting to swell so bad that I took off my wedding ring for fear of it getting stuck (and also squishy finger fat oozing over my favorite piece of jewelry is not a happy sight!). I was shopping with a friend in the lingerie dept. of a department store and we were showing each other some pretty racy stuff when out of nowhere this old lady comes up to me, points to my ring-less left hand, then my bulging pregnant belly, followed by the lingerie in question and says “if you would stop buying things like that you would not find yourself in conditions like this!”
Seriously!!!
Married or not, I am fairly certain trashy department store lingerie had nothing to do with the majority of pregnancies.
By the way…love your blog!
Although I am not pregnant yet, I have observed things that I already know will upset me! My best friend is a teacher and this is one thing that got to her and probably will me also. Every Monday morning when she got to work they would all say, “Oh my gosh you have grown over the weekend.” I also think people give unwanted advice on how to raise the child or what to do will also annoy me. You look fabulous and congratulations on your blessing!
Wow, i m with all these commenters.. Never been prego, but i would hate for anyone to comment on my weight gain!!! Or strangers touching my belly, EEEl!!
Oooh!! I hate when people say stuff like “wow your getting fat!” Or “your gunna be huuuuge!” Or when people I’m not close to touch the belly without asking!
hmm did someone say/do something mean to you?!?
i would be pretty upset if someone used the words HUGE, or FAT. Or if someone lifted up my shirt to see my belly! eeek
Erin…you’re looking gorgeous pregnant! I loved your shower dress….adorable! When I was pregnant with Camden I was SHOCKED at how many people asked me how much weight I’d gained. Are you kidding me??? I’ve NEVER DREAMED of asking anyone that! It happened at least 5 times. I remember at my 41 week appointment I had gained a grand total of 40 whoppers and I cried because I didn’t want to have to tell anyone. Ha! Joel and I decided right then and there that my answer if anyone asked would be “plenty”. Ha! Ha! Hope your story isn’t too horrific!
I can’t wait to read your story! I have never been pregnant, but my cousin has one of those oh my gosh stories. When my cousin had her first, a girl and she has been dreaming of baby names (havent we all?) since she was like 4. She has always known she was going to name her little girl “x” and happily told people who asked her baby’s name. (apparently a TON of people asked, family members, strangers, checkout clerks, everyone.) Well, she was in the line at the grocer when this old woman asked her what she was going to name her baby. She told her, and the woman replied… “NO, you can’t name her that. I HATE that name, I only known spoiled brats and unpopular girls with that name. Trust me, you’ll regret it!”
My cousin has kept mum on the gender and name choice of her second pregnancy and is due in June. 🙂
I had one girl at work say “Oh my gosh, you can definitely tell your pregnant!” And I seriously can’t even tell yet… I mean I know I have some extra weight on me, but that’s been there since before I got pregnant!
I haven’t had much happen yet, because I am really not obviously pregnant yet, but I wouldn’t mind people (except strangers) touching my belly. What I don’t want to hear is all the unsolicited advice, and the few people who think its wierd or not cool that we aren’t finding out the sex.
Oh there are so many things that made me crazy. Unsolicited advice was some of the worst though. I didn’t mind the belly touching so much, but I did mind when people would look at me and say things like “you look like you might pop any day” or ” how much weight HAVE you gained” (27 pounds with my son, thank you very much).
I’m 24 weeks pregnant and I have a couple that can really put me over the edge! (a) people who touch my belly w/out asking, specially random people at work who i don’t really know (b) unwanted advice regarding parenting and pregnancy (c) when they question our name choices (d) that i should more since i’m eating for two…i can probably come up with a really long list but i should stop here now 🙂
I have never had a baby but I love hearing these stories! Why are some people so weird…and rude?! Can’t wait to hear what happened to you!
I’m afraid to even get started. It’s people commenting on my size!!! I’m not due until July, and upon hearing this, people raise their eyebrows, make sounds, even act dismayed (on my behalf, apparently) that I’m THIS BIG SO SOON.
It. Makes. Me. Crazy.
Not preggers but I just know that it will drive me nuts when people ask how I’m going to do XYZ and then criticize my answer… If I didn’t ask you for your personal opinion on daycare or breastfeeding, then I don’t really give a flip what you think on those topics! Example: my best friend was asked about breastfeeding when she was pregnant and when she said she was going to breastfeed for at least the length of her maternity leave, the inquirer replied “OMG, you are going to RUIN your breasts!” Ummmm. Okay. What the F did you ask then?
I’ve never had a child, but I think the seemingly well-intentioned questions would put me off eventually. Like, “how far along are you?”; “You’re really only ___ months pregnant?” “Would you like to have more? How many children?”
I have not had a baby (yet) but I know from others that they hated having random strangers come up and rub their stomachs.
I would also hate to have people make fun of my name choices. I know people are going to do that with my new nephew. They’re going to ask my brother and his wife, “Why did you spell it that way?” or “Why did you give him THAT middle name?”
No children from The Bumpkin, but for us that don’t have……..
When are you gonna have some babies?
Perfect answers:
As soon as we are able to conceive we have tried for years.
or in The Bumpkin’s case.
We have chosen not too! That’s okay with you right, because we forgot to ask you when we made the decision.
Both of these will do well to end the questioning.
I have never been pregnant, but I have one to throw out there… from my side of the fence… I worked with a woman that got pregnant right after I got married. And EVERY DAY, she would say something about how terrible being pregnant was and then the “don’t worry, you’ll find out soon.” I don’t think I would have minded it so much, but everyday… and multiple times. One day she said it 10 times. In 8 hours!
i’m not pregnant but my time will be coming in a year or two…anyways…it seems like everyone i know is pregnant right now and when people ask them super personal questions like : how much weight have you gained, what kind of labor are you having, etc….and then put their two cents in about what they should name the baby and cloth over paper diapers and what kind of car seat they had…it makes me want to live in a hut when i’m pregnant!
i know people are just sharing because they care but there needs to be a line drawn somewhere. when that day comes for me, i’m not telling anyone what sex i’m having or the name….they just get to find out when its born!
I have blogged about this before – but my big one right now….we are on number three and you would think I was the OctoMom!!! I am so tired of hearing “Wow, three kids, you are going to have your hands full!!” or “You are crazy to want three kids!” or my favorite “Were you trying??? Did you want three??!!”
MAKES ME SO MAD!!!!!!
Something tells me you have a story!!!
I generally hate all unsolicited advice. Something tells me pregnant women [just like newly engaged ones] get a lot of it.
Oh. My. Gawd. Like alot of people up there, I hated it when people told me I was HUGE!
And, when I was pregnant with my second daughter, I hated when people responded “Awww….maybe next time you’ll have a boy.” It’s so annoying when people think you care about the sex and try to throw a pity party for you!
I am pregnant and I hate it when someone touches my belly!! People really have nerve!! Oh, and what really ticks me off is people not holding the door open and letting it slam in my face or belly because its so big. I love it when people say, “Look at you. You’re getting so BIG”!!
I’m sans children but I babysit my 1 yo niece Bailey every weekend. One of the rudest things I’ve had happen to me was when I lady at church was holding my niece and would not give her back to me! I nonchalantly told her it was time Bailey to eat, she just kept bouncing her and baby-talking to her. I repeated myself several times and she told me “She’s alright”.
I was LIVID! Excuse me, but if I politely tell you that I want the child I’m responsible for back, you give her back! My dad was standing nearby and was a little more stearn with her so she finally gave Bailey to me.
Needless to say, I keep the baby and myself away from her.
I am currently 8 months pregnant. There is this really large women that works at my school. About 3 months ago (when I was only 5 months) she said to me in the hall, “Oh, look! You’re starting waddle”. I wanted to say…”Uh, have you ever seen yourself walk?” I know for a fact I was not waddling back then. I will totally admit to it now, but not then. Seriously! If I was waddling, at least I had a reason!
GREAT topic!
How about now that you’re married if you’re sick, tired, gained weight, go to the bathroom a lot you just HAVE to be preggers. Back the heck off.
I've never been pregnant…but it drives me crazy when people touch pregnant bellies. It weirds me out to touch a pregnant belly…just because that seems SO personal & their space. I don't get it when strangers walk up to women and start touching their stomach.
I used to hate it when people asked if it was planned, or some other crude comment. Was it planned, did you mean to do that, do you know what causes that, etc… gimme a break.
I also hated hearing everyone’s horror stories. No one will come up to you and say “oh my gosh I had the best delivery!” They all say “I was in labor for 74 hours and tore in both directions and bled for hours blah blah blah!”
I also hated being called knocked up.
My co-workers really annoyed me when they kept work from me b/c they thought I couldn’t handle it or suggested that I could expect to basically not be as smart while I was pregnant. Excuse me, just b/c YOU had that problem doesn’t mean that I’m an idiot. Yeah, I’m still not over it. LOL! Oh yeah, and then when I went back to work somehow things that happened while I was on leave was my prego brain’s fault b/c apparently it’s easier to blame the absent new mother than to admit that you’re senile. Just sayin’…
OMG – so many things to write (grin). My most favorite though was regarding names. I always envisioned naming a boy a certain name (won’t mention it) and when I mentioned it to a relative she said “that’s a girl’s name”. Funny thing is she gave us a baby name book a couple of weeks later (nice huh?!) and the name I mentioned was under the boys names list. I refrained from pointing that out to her.
Another story along the same lines: We ended up having a boy (we ended up naming him something different). We were in the hospital for a couple of weeks and I took advantage of my time there to fill out my son’s baby book. One of the questions asked what other names we thought of so I listed them there. A different relative picked up the baby book and started reading it without my knowledge and he started making comments like “dodged a bullet w/ that one” and more like that.
Needless to say, name choices are not shared until AFTER our babies are born.
OMG – so many things to write (grin). My most favorite though was regarding names. I always envisioned naming a boy a certain name (won’t mention it) and when I mentioned it to a relative she said “that’s a girl’s name”. Funny thing is she gave us a baby name book a couple of weeks later (nice huh?!) and the name I mentioned was under the boys names list. I refrained from pointing that out to her.
Another story along the same lines: We ended up having a boy (we ended up naming him something different). We were in the hospital for a couple of weeks and I took advantage of my time there to fill out my son’s baby book. One of the questions asked what other names we thought of so I listed them there. A different relative picked up the baby book and started reading it without my knowledge and he started making comments like “dodged a bullet w/ that one” and more like that.
Needless to say, name choices are not shared until AFTER our babies are born.
OMG – so many things to write (grin). My most favorite though was regarding names. I always envisioned naming a boy a certain name (won’t mention it) and when I mentioned it to a relative she said “that’s a girl’s name”. Funny thing is she gave us a baby name book a couple of weeks later (nice huh?!) and the name I mentioned was under the boys names list. I refrained from pointing that out to her.
Another story along the same lines: We ended up having a boy (we ended up naming him something different). We were in the hospital for a couple of weeks and I took advantage of my time there to fill out my son’s baby book. One of the questions asked what other names we thought of so I listed them there. A different relative picked up the baby book and started reading it without my knowledge and he started making comments like “dodged a bullet w/ that one” and more like that.
Needless to say, name choices are not shared until AFTER our babies are born.
OMG – so many things to write (grin). My most favorite though was regarding names. I always envisioned naming a boy a certain name (won’t mention it) and when I mentioned it to a relative she said “that’s a girl’s name”. Funny thing is she gave us a baby name book a couple of weeks later (nice huh?!) and the name I mentioned was under the boys names list. I refrained from pointing that out to her.
Another story along the same lines: We ended up having a boy (we ended up naming him something different). We were in the hospital for a couple of weeks and I took advantage of my time there to fill out my son’s baby book. One of the questions asked what other names we thought of so I listed them there. A different relative picked up the baby book and started reading it without my knowledge and he started making comments like “dodged a bullet w/ that one” and more like that.
Needless to say, name choices are not shared until AFTER our babies are born.
OMG – so many things to write (grin). My most favorite though was regarding names. I always envisioned naming a boy a certain name (won’t mention it) and when I mentioned it to a relative she said “that’s a girl’s name”. Funny thing is she gave us a baby name book a couple of weeks later (nice huh?!) and the name I mentioned was under the boys names list. I refrained from pointing that out to her.
Another story along the same lines: We ended up having a boy (we ended up naming him something different). We were in the hospital for a couple of weeks and I took advantage of my time there to fill out my son’s baby book. One of the questions asked what other names we thought of so I listed them there. A different relative picked up the baby book and started reading it without my knowledge and he started making comments like “dodged a bullet w/ that one” and more like that.
Needless to say, name choices are not shared until AFTER our babies are born.
Ok, so you know while being pregnant your center of gravity is all off? Well, while at work a few weeks ago, I was sitting around w/ two of my co-workers, and I completely fell out of my chair! Luckily, it was only two people that saw it, and we all laughed. Well, right after it happened, the girl who witnessed it (who is all of 24), says “ha ha, fat people fall out of their chairs all the time!”
Ugh. Hate to say it, but no one really likes her at work. You can see why.
Not going to lie. I would probably freak out if a stranger touched my belly! I’m very particular about my personal space even with family and friends, so I don’t know how I would deal with complete strangers thinking they should tell me.
Kind of freaks me out just thinking about it…
#1 off putting comment was when I was in my 3rd trimester (and feeling like I was looking pretty decent) and an older man at church said to me “Whoa!!! Whatcha got? Twins or triplets in there?” (um…just one little boy, jerk)
I couldn’t respond how I initially wanted to since I *was* in the Lord’s house – but I went home feeling like crud for the next week. Booo to mean old men!
Okay, I hope you dish on what your story is.. So far I don’t really have anything… My mil just keeps reminding me that b/c I eat so much salt I will swell up and be huge like she was?!?! I haven’t had anyone touch my belly.. Not even my family. My mom has a couple of times, but really I haven’t had anyone in my space yet.. I’m most scared of hearing how big I am going to be.. My cousin knows one of Dustin’s cousin and she kept telling her over and over, YOU ARE HUGE, you sure you’re your not having twins! I mean you are huge!!! I dont think people realize how hurtful that sounds. I know I never realized how sensitive I am to my appearance until now being there…
Okay, can’t wait to hear your story!
When i was pregnant the thing most pissed me was ppl telling me how Big my tummy was…keep telling me they are scared of my tummy…everytime i had to give a fake smile when they say that… and ofcourse ppl touchin the tummy also is another concern too…hehe
I was about 8 months pregnant when my horrible story happened!! My husband’s grandfather was having surgery and when we walked into the waiting room some random old woman came up and kissed my stomach!! I saw here coming and thought maybe she just wanted to touch it but wow I wouldn’t of ever thought someone would kiss my stomach. What a wierdo!
The worst thing I ever heard while pregnant with my first son was from my own mom. She told me “the only thing children and animals understand is pain.” NICE!
I also hated when people felt like they could not just touch, but RUB, my stomach. If someone did that now, I would just rub theirs right back and see how they like it!
In the beginning when dear MIL continuously says, “When I was pregnant…” I mean seriously?!?! You were pregnant like 30 years ago and haven’t been since. Times change and so do treatments. Besides, I’m not looking for one-upmanship. I’m looking for a sympathetic ear. Phew. Quite the rant. Sorry :).
Well, since this is fresh on my mind… 🙂
Don’t tell me that I shouldn’t be showing until I’m six months pregnant. How the hell do you know what my body is supposed to do?! YOUR A MAN and you’ve never and never will be pregnant.
When I tell you I’m pregnant don’t let the first things out of your mouth be “wow, was this planned?” – wtf??
Do not give me hour long lectures about how my hubby and I will need to put the baby first before everything. Seriously – do I look like a 15 year old?
Do NOT laugh in my face and say that I have no idea how hard its going to be. No kidding! How could I possibly know and thank you for making me feel better two seconds after I just picked my head up out of the toilet!!
ALL of these came from family members!
I’m one of the victims of having someone rub my belly each time they saw me, which was about once every couple of weeks. They would talk to my belly and tell my son that “Aunt Steph” was there….and she was of no relation to me at all. Yuck. The other thing that I hated was being told, “Wow! You’re all belly and boobs!” I’m only 5’1 and pretty tiny so being told I’m all belly….well, I felt like freakin’ Jaba the Hutt!
Tagged you!
I am not preggers and have never been so I cannot speak from experience but I think I will probably get annoyed when people offer up unwanted advice. Or when people tell of their horror stories, like how bad child birth is and all of that. Why would you tell a pregnant women that?!?!?!
At about 7 months pregnant my husband and I were at a funeral. As we were leaving, we walked past a man who my husband and I did not know and he said to me “are you having a boy”? I answered “yes”! Then this man procedes to tell me that he “guessed that becuase he has noticed that when women are pregnant with boys they tend to carry their weight in their rear-end a little more”!!! I can’t even imagine what the look on my face was but I’m sure I just smiled politley since he was pretty old and walked away. I was in shock!!! By the way, I weighed 140 lbs. on my delivery date so I really can’t imagaine that 2 months earlier my rear-end was THAT huge! Here it is, 8 years later, and I still am bothered by that comment.
Oddly, I’m not offended by people touching my stomach without asking. I really anticipated having a problem with it and it was all for naught. However, I haven’t had an actual stranger come on to me yet so that will be different.
Comments:
After voicing my concern over losing control of my body, my loving husband’s response: “It’s okay baby, I know you’ll run everyday until you’re comfortable again.”
At Christmas when my brother hadn’t seen me in a few weeks: “Oh wow, you’ve exploded!”
Coworker: “Everytime I see you, your butt just gets bigger and bigger.” (I was expecting stomach!)
We decided not to find out the sex of the baby, and you would not BELIEVE how over-opinionated people were about it!
It was our choice, and I wouldn’t change a thing. We’ll do the same on the next one. I don’t make people that do find out feel stupid; I think they should show me the same courtesy.
!!!!!! Thanks for letting me vent. 🙂
Never had kids but I’ve heard people ask some crazy things. “Were you trying?” Umm… does that matter? She’s pregnant. Do you really want her to describe her conception story to you? Another one that blows my mind is “Are you going to have more children?”. How bout she get the one that’s only 4 months gestation outta the way before we start talking about others. 🙂
You must have had a doozie of a story!
i must have put off some sort of “don’t touch me” vibe!! no one ever did that to me throughout 3 pregnancies!!!!!
(Preface: I don’t have kids and have never been pregnant). The scene: A discount clothing store, mid-afternoon, any given day.
Lady: Do you know if they has any maternity clothes here?
Me: I don’t work here, so I don’t really know for sure. I think they get some in sometimes.
Lady (looking me up and down, eyes settling on stomach area): You ain’t had no kiyids?
Me (laughing uncomfortably): No, ma’am, I’m a little young for that.
Lady: How old is you?
Me: 22.
Lady: Oh, you’s just wet behind the ears is all. [Walking away] Wet behind the ears.
Me: …
I should really stop shopping there.
my mother-in-law said, ‘so when are you moving home?’ eek! 🙂
I’ve never been pregnant, but I like to think about choices that I may make when the time comes.
When talking to my cousin, who is a total Type-A control freak, I mentioned that I wouldn’t want to find out the sex of the baby. She stared at me and told me, “You’re crazy.” Um, come again? She proceeded to ask me how I could plan the nursery, the baby shower, the clothes, etc. without knowing the baby’s gender. If all that matters is having a healthy baby, then what’s the big deal if you know the gender beforehand? Babies do not have to only wear blue or pink. I’m pretty sure people have managed just fine for thousands of years not knowing the sex of their babies.
And when I say that I’m interested in home births or water births with the assistance of a midwife, people take it upon themselves to tell me how dangerous that would be. I’m not stupid! I am doing my own research and I would never do something that could jeopardize my or my baby’s health!
Congrats on your pregnancy, love your blog!
I’m quite late to comment, but my most un-favorite comment was when I was so very, very pregnant with baby #2 and a mother insisted I was having twins. I assured her I wasn’t hoping her comment would sink in and she would feel like a fool for opening her mouth. But instead of commons sense prevailing, she just kept talking and insisting. I was wondering if I could run very fast if I pushed her down in Chickfila and took off while gently rushing my nearly 3 year old. Would I have been arrested if the police only knew what this crazy woman had said to a 8 month pregnant woman with gestational diabetes in the middle of summer? Would I have a “get out of jail free” card because of her stupidity? I ultimately just left with a nasty attitude. I wanted to have a shirt (a really big shirt) made that read, “I’m not a “happy” pregnant person. Don’t speak to me!”
Enjoy your pregnancy!
Okay, I know this has been months ago but I just stumbled onto your blog and I have to comment. When I was about 6 or 7 months pregnant (my little boy just turned 1 on 08/16) this older man walked up to me, pointed to my belly and said “you know it is not as much fun coming out as it was going in”
I was speechless…
Amanda (Tyler, Texas)